You’ve both been seeing other people all along, and now one of you has received an invitation to a regional swinger’s sex party. Attending a sex celebration together is a significant step, but are you prepared for it?
1. Leave Your Jealousy at the Door
No-strings-attached doesn’t always imply there aren’t feelings involved. It simply indicates that you’ve agreed not to be a couple and all the baggage that entails. You’re still human. It’s one thing to have an open relationship where you pursue your paramours independently. It’s another when you’re watching your partner have sex with someone else in front of you, even if you thought it was hot as a fantasy.
Be honest with yourself about whether you’ll feel jealous or possessive. Be prepared to ease yourself into the situation, just in case you find yourself surprised by the odd twinge of the green-eyed beast.
2. Have a Candid Conversation Before You Go, Instead of Throughout
Okay, sure, it’s NSA, but this is now on the table for conversation. In the same way, you negotiated your first few hookups to get to know likes and dislikes, chat about how you both feel before delving into the Uber and heading to the party. If you have any concerns, no matter how trivial, bring them up now. One advantage of developing a relationship with someone you met on Adult FriendFinder is that sex has always been a topic of conversation. The same rules apply now, though you may have developed a deeper relationship and may feel some anxiety about approaching the subject.
3. Discuss What You Want Out of the Event and Each Other
Make sure to cover what you feel comfortable with, as well as any boundaries or hard stops. Bring it up now if you feel more comfortable with them by your side at first because you’re new to this. They may be the only person you know at the party and vice versa. Ensure that you both understand each other’s expectations and agree to them.
4. Have a Safe Word in Place in Case It’s Time to Go
While you’re making your game plan, be sure to have some signals in place in case either of you gets uncomfortable, tired, or just aren’t feeling the vibe. Agree to honor them, even if you’re having a good time– ultimately, you decided to do this together.
5. Be a Great Wingman
You’ve checked your concerns and discussed everything with your partner. You both established a list of what you want to get out of the evening and prepared an escape hatch if you need it.
Now go and have fun!
Just remember, these are people who love sex just like you, so enjoy the experience. When you first arrive, try to relax and get a sense of the vibe. You’re the newbies, so you’re likely to get attention quite quickly.
In the same regard, don’t be rude. When approaching someone, understand the house rules and be respectful. There will be plenty of other opportunities if the person you’re interested in playing with declines.
When everyone is in sync and ready to have fun, sex parties are an exhilarating and liberating experience. People are generally very respectful of other couples’ desires. So if your partner wants to participate in that gangbang or be the focus of it, be supportive (or join in) and expect the same from them.
6. Make sure you both have fun so you can do it again.
Ideally, at the end of the night, you and your partner should both have big smiles on your faces, feeling sexually stimulated and with some exciting stories to share on your way back home. If you followed the tips above, you likely had a great time without any awkward moments. You impressed your hosts and their guests while satisfying your sexual partner with a thrilling night out. This is usually enough to get you invited back or to give you enough confidence to explore other sex parties that you can attend together.
The bottom line is that swinging and sex parties can be incredible experiences, but they also come with baggage and potential problems. By discussing your desires, preferences, limits, and dislikes with a trusted partner before attending a party, your first experience can be wildly successful and satisfying.
If you’ve both been seeing other people and now received an invitation to a local swinger’s sex party, attending it together is a significant step. Sex parties can be exhilarating and liberating experiences when everyone is in sync and ready to have fun.
Ideally, by the end of the night, you’re both grinning ear to ear, your genital areas are buzzing from overstimulation, and you have some wild stories to go over on the way home. If you used the tips above, you likely had a fun time with no unpleasant moments. You ingratiated yourself with your hosts and their guests while pleasing your fuck buddy with an exciting evening out. That’s usually enough to get invited back or give you enough confidence to explore other sex parties you can attend together.
The bottom line is that swinging and sex parties can be an incredible experience. Sex comes with lots of baggage and potential problems. By planning out your desires, likes, dislikes, and limits with a trusted partner before going out, your first sex party can be hugely successful and satisfying.
You’ve both been seeing other people all along, and now one of you has gotten an invitation to a local swinger’s sex party. Participating in a sex party together is a big step, but are you ready for it?
Sex parties are an exhilarating and liberating experience when everyone is in sync and ready to have fun. That’s usually enough to get invited back or give you enough confidence to explore other sex parties you can attend together.
By planning out your desires, likes, dislikes, and limits with a trusted partner before going out, your first sex party can be gratifying and wildly successful.