No matter how crude the performance may be, pornography can enliven your sex life in more ways than one. Whether you use it to get new ideas or just to masturbate so you last longer for your partner, pornography can take your performance to a whole new level. Of course, with how exaggerated some of the performances are, it’s hard to tell what’s good to try at home and what’s best left to the professionals. To help you figure things out, we’ve put together the top five porn themes you should try with your partner.
1. Voyeurism
Voyeurism isn’t just for porn stars; the excitement of getting caught is a huge turn-on for many people. You have the thrill and adrenaline rush of something new, exciting, and even a little risky.
If you’re a bit shy, start slowly and open the bedroom window just a little bit. You’ll have the rush of a neighbor or passerby possibly hearing your passion or even seeing what’s going on through the crack in the blinds.
If you’re a bit more adventurous, or even a full-blown adrenaline junkie, let your partner watch you masturbate but don’t let them touch you until you give approval. Get into it, use toys and fingers, and go slowly so they can see every movement, whether it’s penetration or the slow, deliberate hand motions that tell them exactly what you’re doing. And don’t forget to moan.
Make sure to get loud and keep the camera angle in mind to have the best view possible. You’ll get all your favorite moves combined with your favorite person, so it might be your favorite home movie of all time.
2. Roleplay
Roleplay can be anything, from the most intricate cosplay outfits to simple costumes or just pretending like you’re strangers in public. There are a million different scenarios you can act out with your partner that will make you both feel sexier.
The acting doesn’t need to be amazing. Nobody watches porn for the acting, so nobody expects you to give an Oscar-winning performance. It’s more about the commitment to your role and the emotional connection that comes with trying something new together.
To really get into your scenario, wear costumes to make the experience better and more believable. Whether it’s a French maid outfit, a corset, a collar, or even a corny Halloween costume, it will help you get into character and give your partner a sexy view.
There are many options for fun roleplay ideas, and you can even take your playtime to new locations if you really want to set the scene. Some ideas may be paying off debt with sexual favors, dominatrix play, strangers picking each other up at a bar, or police officer and criminal. If you’re ever running short on ideas, do a quick search for roleplay scenes and add some new costumes to your shopping cart. Get creative and have fun with it.
3. Anal Play
Anal sex can be a bit overwhelming if you’ve never tried it before. Once you get past the initial psychological block, it can be a lot of fun, and many couples experience even more intense orgasms from the stimulation.
Make sure you have enough lube, and then use a little bit more, just to be safe. There’s no such thing as too much lube when you’re going in from behind. For added consideration, warm the lube in your hands first, or let the bottle sit in warm water for a few minutes to get rid of the cold shock.
Take it slow at first, and find a comfortable position that doesn’t cause any clenching. A good starter position is to bend your partner over the edge of the bed with you standing behind them so you can slide in easily.
For maximum pleasure, ensure your partner is stimulated in multiple ways so they get as much enjoyment from the experience as you do. The traditional reach-around is always helpful, and the extra stimulation will help the receiver relax, so you might even get a repeat performance next time.
As the back entrance becomes more comfortable, you can switch it up with positions like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl (so your partner has more control over how deep you go), reverse missionary, or many other positions for easy entry. There are plenty of possibilities and a lot of pleasure to be had by both parties.
4. Leave the Bedroom
Many couples tend to keep most of their playtime inside their own bedroom. However, just because they’re called “bedroom activities” doesn’t mean they need to stay there. Instead, move your playtime around the house and try locations like the kitchen counter, in front of the bathroom mirror, the sofa, or even on the floor. The whole house is a playroom with unlimited possibilities for new positions and areas.
If the house is getting boring, or if you have roommates, try changing the surroundings even more. Try out an expensive hotel that you would normally never go to. Get naughty outside, whether in a fenced-in yard or in the middle of the woods somewhere. If a lake or ocean is nearby, go skinny dipping in a secluded area. Just make sure you don’t get sand in your cracks.
Locations are truly only limited by your own daring and local laws. A skirt with no underwear can help you get some discrete action in various places, without anyone being any the wiser.
5. Oral until Orgasm
Oral sex often feels amazing, especially when the person performing the oral gets into it. Even if you don’t normally give blowjobs or head, get naughty and messy and give your partner an orgasm simply with your mouth and hands. The effort you put into it will make them come in no time, and they’ll probably want to return the favor.
When giving your partner the most sexual oral, they might try to switch over to sex. This is all about the head, though, so get into it and give them the most amazing oral you can. Try different movements with your tongue and fingers to mix things up. Make eye contact to add emotional connection and watch their face as they enjoy the sensations. Don’t hesitate to touch yourself at the same time, so you get more into it too. The sound of your moaning will give them even more pleasure.
Once they’re about to orgasm, let them come in your mouth and swallow if you can. Let your partner finish on your face or hands if you have an especially sensitive gag reflex. The mess and the sight of you enjoying their fluids are almost as exciting as the foreplay itself.