The Power of Scent and Setting the Mood

Over the last couple of years, ASMR has gained a great deal of attention as individuals started to think about the importance of sensory experiences as they relate to sex. Naturally, it’s no secret that there’s a strong connection between sex and the five senses, including taste and odor. So now that sensory experiences have their day in the sun (or the bedroom!), let’s explore how olfactory elements can improve your sex life as well.

Research studies have shown aroma is a key marketing part

Have you ever walked into a store and picked up a vague odor of fresh oranges, even though the shop sold furnishings or cars and trucks and had absolutely nothing to do with produce? That’s because marketers have shown that the smell of fresh oranges is stimulating to customers who may otherwise be tired by the time they enter the store. The right aroma suggests more sales for them, and the right scent can also mean more dating success for you.

What scents work best for dating?

As usual, the answer is it depends. Reading dating profiles, talking, and talking by phone before you meet may give you a lot of useful tips, however, here are some common examples and why they work:

Fresh Baked Cookies

Putting some cookie dough in the oven and opening the door with the aroma of fresh cookies throughout your place increases many people’s appetite for a lot more than cookies. Add in the aphrodisiac effect of chocolate, and it’s easy to see why chocolate chip cookies generally work best.

Early Morning Citrus Awakens The Senses

If you’re too drowsy to enjoy them, late-night booty calls can go awry. Bright aromas like Lemon or Lavender are excellent for adding some energy to the mood, so you don’t fall asleep during the fun.


Many people unconsciously associate the scent of cinnamon with sensual memories. Just having some wafting through the air at your place might bring out the more adventurous side of any lover you play with.


Ingesting ginger can stimulate the circulatory system, and some believe that even the scent of ginger can have a similar effect, which is excellent for sexual stamina.


Often considered one of the most masculine scents, sandalwood does an excellent job of setting the tone and letting your partner know you plan to take charge. A simple aroma in a room can do so much to communicate your sexual intentions, and sandalwood is a prime example of that.


Unlike many other fragrances, leather is a fetish in its own right. Many people can get completely turned on and even reach orgasm just from the unique sense memories that only leather can bring.

Fragrances and Colognes In Small Amounts

On the other hand, personal scents from colognes and fragrances can be great aphrodisiacs, and they are also a way to plant future memories in your lover’s mind because the next time they smell your scent, it’s likely they will think of you. Just be sure to use any fragrance in small amounts.

A Word About Candles

You may believe that you have found the perfect fragrance to set the mood for your next date, but how would you transport it to your home? And where would you put a big pine tree even if you had time to get one? The simple answer is scented candles. Avoid using chemical air fresheners and opt for a much more romantic and fragrant candle that provides warm light in addition to the scent you find most appealing.

There’s Always Gwyneth Paltrow’s Vagina

If you have gone through the library of scented candles and still haven’t found the perfect scent for your sexual encounter, consider Gwyneth Paltrow’s vagina. That’s right, the Academy Award-winning actress famously launched a series of scented candles unlike the ones you’ll find at Yankee Candle, and her most popular is a candle she claims has the same scent as her vagina. Even if you and your new partner aren’t fans of hers, it serves as a quality conversation starter, and in some small way, using her candle during sex is almost like having a threesome with Gwyneth herself!

A Bad Odor Is the Best Example

If you think all this talk about choosing a pleasing fragrance is just exaggeration, here’s an easy psychological exercise that proves the point. Think of the worst thing you have ever smelled. Would you want to have sex with that smell present? Of course not. And if you imagine having sex with that stink present, you’ll quickly agree that the way the room and your partner smell matters quite a bit.

A Final Word on Making Sense of Sexual Scents

Fragrance, much like all the other senses, is a very personal and intimate way to create a signature in someone else’s mind. Choosing something unique that is connected to your sensibilities can often enhance the first date or turn a casual encounter into something more. The most important thing to remember is that these sorts of things matter and taking the time to find the right scent for yourself and your space shows you are the kind of thoughtful lover who takes the pleasure of others seriously. That sets the tone and often brings out the best in everyone you choose to be with.

What kind of fragrances turn you on the most?

The right fragrance means more sales for them, and the right scent can also mean more dating success for you. On the other hand, personal fragrances from perfumes and colognes can be great aphrodisiacs, and they are also a way to plant future memories in your lover’s mind because the next time they smell your aroma, they are likely to think of you.