Gender identity

Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, and Doing It: A Breakdown of Desire

Whether you’re returning to the dating game or broadening your adventurous horizons, we’re entering a period so loaded with options that it can be frustrating. The sexual revolution has become a grand event, and while there’s still a ways to go, society’s acceptance of an individual’s sexual freedom is advancing.

You have the freedom to be who you wish to be.

So, now you must ask yourself: Who are you? What’s YOUR taste of human? What do you desire from a friend or a partner? It’s time to explore your choices and get to know who you are and what you’re searching for.

The Differences Between Gender, Sex, and Sexuality
We need to talk about the differences between our gender, our sex, and our sexuality.

Our gender is part of our identity. It’s who we are and has nothing to do with whom we have sex with or what we have in our pants. It’s about how we see ourselves and who we feel we are, whether male, female, nonbinary, etc.

Your genitalia does not determine your gender. Instead, your gender is who you are and who you have always been.

A person’s sex is their hormones, chromosomes, and physical genitalia. Some people consider male and female the only two sex options, but there’s more to the story than that. This theory disregards those who are intersex or were born with a rare genetic disorder.

A person’s sexuality or sexual orientation is quite separate from their actual gender and the current state of their genitalia. Like gender, sexuality can be fluid.

The Sexuality Spectrum

There is much more to the sexuality spectrum than being lesbian, gay, or bisexual. Many of us grew up believing that these were our only available choices.

Asexual is an umbrella term that refers to individuals who either do not feel a sexual attraction or romantic feelings for anyone or feel them infrequently. This does not mean they don’t have sex or romantic feelings; they just get something different from it if they choose to do the deed.

Autosexual/Autoromantic are those who feel romantic and/or sexual feelings towards themselves. They may feel romantic/sexual about someone else, but that someone has to be very special. Many are happy with masturbation alone.

Bicurious/Biromantic refers to people interested in trying out sex, or love, with someone of the same sex when they have had heterosexual relationships most of their lives. They still feel attraction towards the opposite sex but are simply curious about what bisexuality is all about.

Demisexual/demiromantic individuals typically only feel romantically and/or sexually attracted to someone they already have a strong emotional and psychological bond with. Many times, someone who is demisexual may also fall on the asexual spectrum, at least until they make a connection.

Pansexual/omnisexuals do not care what sex organs you were born with or what your actual gender is. They can fall in love or desire with anyone, regardless of these factors. They love the person, and they don’t care about anything else. People are people, and love is love.

Sapiosexuality refers to someone who feels attracted to nonbinary individuals specifically. They aren’t usually attracted to cisgender individuals who conform to gender norms.

Spectrasexual is a label for people who are open to adventures with several types of people, but unlike demisexuals, they are turned off by a specific group of people, which is different for every spectrasexual.

Skoliosexuality refers to people who are only attracted to other individuals who identify as a different gender than they were born with. This means that they tend to fall for people who identify as transgender,